Geee Susan...That's almost a "Dear Abby" question.

I have no idea if there is a proper term, but our neighbor has 2 boys, who sort of grew up next to us....She always told them to call me Miss Maggie. I thought that was sort of cute. I have also heard the term "Aunt" used . I guess bottom line if they seem happy with you, and feel free around you, then be happy things are going well, and I don't think I'd rock the boat either. Good Luck!!

I've also heard "Nana (first name or nickname)" in reference to step-grandparents.

I'm one of those people that thinks kids can never have too many grandparents ;) My oldest two have 3 sets of 'step grandparents' between them (long story lol) and they call them what the other grandchildren call them (Grandma for one, Grammie for another, Nana for yet another lol). Maybe this is something you could ask your step daughter?? I don't know how much you get to talk to her but maybe you can ask,,, Nana is cute, etc. To me (because I lost my dad a year before his first grandchild was born), I like having as many grandparents as possible and don't distinguish between step and 'blood' lol.

I am one of three grandparents to my husbands son's children. They call one Grandma, the second they call Nana and me they call Nona BB(my initials that I go by at my work) they call my husband Papa Bob. I worried about this also as my husband had been estranged from his son for many years. We were married 14 years when they reconcilled. The children came up with the name themselves. I would have been happy with just my first name or my initials that work people call me by. So don't worry the grandkids will tell you what they want to call you. Ours did.

Thanks ladies - I appreciate the input. Yes, maybe we should have a Dear Abby forum!!! :)
"Nana" is what I called my grandmother and what my daughter called my mum so I'm partial to that one.
Hubby asked his daughter tonight if she had any suggestions and we all started getting a bit silly, so at least we're taking it lightheartedly. I have no objections to them callng me grandma....it's just that I don't want them to feel they HAVE to.
Maggie...I remember when I was young we were not allowed to address grownups by their first name. It always had to be "Aunt" if it was a close family friend or neighbor and maybe that's why I don't feel right about them calling me Susan. It's not a big deal really...I'm just so happy that hubby's daughter is back in his life!
bbb - sounds like we have a very similar story!

btw Maggie - love the new photo!

I agree with kids will come up with what they feel comfortable with.. I grew up with a southern family and most adults were addressed in a rather casual yet respectful way, ie Mrs Susan, Like Maggie stated. as the kids are older it may be hard for them to suddenly call you grandma or nana but I am sure they can help with ideas..

Good luck and congrats on additional family to scrap! :)

Well it seems like they just want to call me Susan. I'm okay with that - after all, strictly speaking I'm not their grandma...and I certainly don't want them to feel pressured into calling me by a certain name. Actually, I'd probably find it quite odd to suddenly be called "Grandma" by four teenagers I've never met! WHEN my DD finally gets around to having a baby, then I'll be a "Nana".....c'mon Julie!!!!

My kids use Momaw and Grammie. I use Memaw. I have heard the use of Nana, Mimi, Gigi (which I love).

Ron & I are neither married, nor do we even live together, but his grandkids call me Grandma Brenda